The Point of IT All...

OH LORD THAT YOU WOULD BLESS ME AND ENLARGE MY TERRITORY!

Are we going to dismiss the issue of a scorned/hurt woman?

Millie sought out to get revenge on Fitz just as every scorned woman would.  You hurt me so I’m going to hurt you is the motto.  Well, how about I just blackmail you into choosing me.  NEWS FLASH: If a man does not want you, there is nothing you can say or do to get him to be with you.  Absolutely nothing.  (and vice versa)  I laughed at her attempt to get her husband back. I kicked my feet up and watched her heart break even more and that elmer fudd looking face to hit the floor. If a man has hurt you, the best thing to do is move on.  The more you try to force yourself on him, the madder you will get and the more pain you will feel.  Honey, just walk away.  Now, you can fight for him but after so long you just have to realize that he isn’t looking for you to fight for him.  He is actually wanting you to walk away. Learn the difference.

I learned a lesson that I promised myself to never forget again.  Take chances.  Simple as that.  What was done before may not be the case.  I can feel Olivia when she felt as though Fitz wasn’t true to his feelings with her; she doubted his intentions.  She ran.  *wipes off foot*

So the last time you went all in with a guy with no care as to what could go wrong, things ended up wrong and your feelings were hurt?  So the next time a man came, you were hesitant.  Kinda jogged didn’t ya? Did little things jjuuuuuussstt to keep a little distance until you were sure? Mistake. Not only will you push off someone who was probably genuinely into you, but you will end up missing what he was offering you.  Olivia wanted to run so bad from Fitz.  She just couldn’t take the pain anymore, especially after he dissed her before.  Oh but she sat on that couch and let this man earn her, risking everything including his image.  Then, she knew it was real.  (SN: it takes a real man to put aside his pride and do certain things) As hurt as we get sometimes we have to just open up and let things go, especially if it is not the person who hurt you.  Women and men, we often find themselves alone because they are afraid to get hurt.  Let me share this, let the man court you.  Be a lady and don’t push him off unless you are completely uninterested.  Men, let this woman show you that’s she not just into your money.  Oh and let me say this, physical appearance may not be what attracts you either.  The size of his penis or how great her va gay gay is may not either. 

If I’m turned off, I’m just off!!  Yea, I’ve done that too. Talked to a guy hoping that my mind would change but after encountering … I was like nah. I’ll pass. 

Men and women, are you going to be hurt all your life? I didn’t know you’re supposed to allow broken things to say broken. Baby you can put the pieces of this puzzle together. Also, if someone has hurt you or pushed you away, give them a second chance. No one is perfect. EVERYONE makes mistakes.

The Point of IT All: Don’t force yourself on someone who doesn’t want you.  You’re hurt, they don’t want you, move on.  If you’ve been hurt before, don’t stay in that sad place.  Allow someone to show you that you are worthy of being loved and cared for.

Let me get ready for my evening

So I know y’all saw Scandal last night.  Let’s discuss this phrase that I’m sure all females have been throwing around the past 12 hours “If you want me, EARN ME!”

But let me address you young ladies screaming “EARN ME”. Earn you for what? What are you worth? SIT YOUR MINIMUM WAGE ASS DOWN!! You still FIX food out of a can but you worth something? Ma’ams SIT YOUR DOLLAR TREE ASSES DOWN! ‘Round here with a stank attitude, 24” weave, and make-up caked on like a mime dancer.  That mediocre cooch will only take you so far. Not every woman is worth earning.  You wanting a man to woo you but you stay talmbout oooo you so thirsty!  You gon be sitting on the couch waiting like Mellie when that clock struck 9:00pm …looking foolish as hell because you didn’t get chose.

Now, Olivia said a word with that one.  So you all wanna bash the side chick because she told that man to earn her?  Some of you may wonder how can a side chick say that to a man. Well, let me tell you this. Olivia had every right to say that to him. At this point she was no longer the side piece.  I  know y’all remember Olivia sitting on that pew a whole week. He cut her off and she cut him off.  Now, YES you need to show her that it’s real.  It was fun while it lasted but baby boy, come real or don’t come at all.  Cut me off once and think I’m supposed to crawl back every time.  Nah buddy.  It’s OV for that. Now I know we aren’t supposed to be rooting for infidelity, but the reality is that you may not always be with the person you are truly in love with. I think Olivia is worth being earned.

Men sitting here talking about side chick this, side chick that.  Let me help you men out …. it’s not a side chick when the man is in love.  That’s not a side chick. Fitz didn’t come back to her just for the sex or company because his wife got on his last nerve (although she did, ugh) but he came back BECAUSE HE WAS IN LOVE WITH OLIVIA. Who keeps running back? Aw ok.  People saying Fitz is in charge but guess what, Olivia has that comeback! If she was JUST a side chick Fitz wouldn’t be checking for her like he does. Safe to say he can’t get over the side chick either huh? So who’s falling? haha He’s whipped.  Men, y’all have been whipped too … by a side chick.  That coochie is on a pedestal.  Olivia is an amazing woman and that bedroom action is the icing on the cake.  Reminds me of myself :-)  Ask.

The Point of IT All: Before you demand that someone earns you, make sure that you are worth something that money can’t buy. #LetITMarinate

The Point of IT All: Not all side chicks stay in that role.  Y’all men end up having to EARN that woman. Whether you want to admit it or not.  Some of you are with your once side chick. But I’m sleeping like a fetus tho.

Now riddle me this.  Why is it that Chris Dorner was sought out to be murder.  They didn’t give them man a chance to be captured.  All he did was shoot and kill a few officers.  Now we have “little brother”.  Little Brother and Big Brother set of several bombs in the city of Boston.  These young foreigners planned and executed massive attacks in our county yet they wanted to capture him alive.  Now I’m pretty sure that authorities could have done something to capture Dorner rather than burning him alive the way that they did.  No other options of captivity were sought.  But here, they said ‘catch this man alive. we want him alive’.

See something weird here? Help me out.  I haven’t read up on the story this is only what I’m thinking based on very little facts.

If you can catch a man with explosives still in his possession with the ability to set them off without killing him or having the desire to, you can catch a man equipment with guns without killing him. Does race play a part? Does nationality play a part? I just don’t understand how you can want one man alive but sought to murder another. But wait, they wanted information about the whole terrorist ordeal right?

The Point of It All: At times we can’t even trust the people we expect to have the country’s best interest at hand.

Never wanted to come back to Memphis once I left in 2005.  People question me all the time as to why I came back to Memphis after moving to Houston.  When I find a real answer, I’ll get back to you all.  No more school.  I have my degree.  I have my license. Why do I not feel personally fulfilled? 

I AM NOT DOING WHAT I HAVE A PASSION TO DO.

I really don’t feel like I’m living my purpose.  I’m currently in the process of trying to move out of Memphis.  I’m ready to start practicing, get my entertainment clients (side hustle), have my own firm (well now, trying to work in someone else’s), and start my non-profits.  Lord I thank you for the job that I have and I am patiently waiting on you to move me. I believe and trust in your plan.  But when I say I feel empty … I think I’m not describing this feeling enough.  Should I just take a leap of faith? Where should I be to get started? One thing for sure, Memphis is not the place to be and Memphis folk ain’t the people to mix among. 

I’m taking steps. Active steps.  I’m constantly looking for more steps to take.  I know what I have a passion to do and I’m searching for that path paved for me. I’m going to take it running in heels and all!

The Point of It All: Go for your dreams.  If you have a passion for something, go get it. Don’t sit empty. Step outside of your comfort zone and take risks.  I did once before and I’m ready again.

In life, we face many battles.  During these battles, we worry. Often times we lack faith when we can’t see the next step. We lack faith when we don’t understandd the storm.   I’m reminded of Jesus on the cross—his last 7 words.  I focus more on the last 4 words. 

The 4th word Jesus spoke:  “My God, My God, why hast though forsaken me?”  When we are faced with stormy weather we tend to ask “Why me?” Have you ever looked around and wondered why everyone else seems to be ok yet you are battling with a storm? When Jesus was on the cross, he questioned his father, wondering why he was in that situation.  What we fail to do is expect the blessing after the storm.  We forget that we serve an on-time and purposeful God.   As Jesus spoke his last three words, we see him, in the midst of his storm,  go from questioning God to believing in his saving power! Jesus later speaks:

5th word: “I thirst” —- his expression of his pjysical pain, for us, may be emotional pain as well

6th word: “It is finished” as he bowed his head and gave up his spirit — he stopped worrying about it

7th word: Jesus cried out, “Father, into your hands I commend my spirit” — he put it all in God’s hands

As we can see, Jesus went from questioning God to believing that he will work it out.  Faith is manifested even in the midst of the storm.  We should be more like Jesus on the cross.  Celebrate God’s saving power.  Celebrate not because he answered you , but because he heard your cry and you believe he will save you. Stop worrying/complaining and hand it over to him.  He has the power to snatch you out of any situation.  He even saves us from our own mess.  Just when you thought your situation was going to swallow you whole, HE SAVED YOU!  No matter how long you have to wait, KNOW that he will do IT. 

Praise him before the job. Praise him before the marriage. Praise him before the degree. Praise him before you know how your bills will get paid.  Praise him in the midst of the storm. Praise him in advance.  Praise him because HE WILL DO IT! Your aggravation and anger might be high but he can and he will!! Help is on the way. Lift up your head. Cheer Up.  Don’t worry about tomorrow because he holds all of our tomorrows.

*sings* ALL IN HIS HANDS, I PUT IT ALL IN HIS HANDS. THIS AND THAT I PUT IT ALL IN HIS HANDS. WHATEVER THE PROBLEM I PUT IT ALL IN HIS HANDS. ALL IN HIS HANDS, I PUT IT ALL IN HIS HANDS!!!

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Giving someone my heart, soul, and mind frightens me…… But I’m ready.

I was asked the other day “Why are you always randomly singing gospel songs?”  Easy.” I sing because I’m happy. I sing because I’m free.”

When you catch me singing, I’m singing testimonies.  

“As I look back over my life”, I can only ask why me?

What makes me so special to covered by  God’s blood. 

When I was the same girl scrubbing the ground in the club.

There were times where I could have been shot by being in the wrong company,

Little did I know God was to the left, right and even in front of me

There was a time that I was seconds from losing my life while in my car

But  drove away with no bruises, not even a scar

All I could do was stop and shout “JESUS” from the depths of my heart

Because at that moment my life flashed before me, right from the start

I could be promiscuous due to heartache, I could have gotten stuck on drugs.

“It could’ve been me, I should’ve been me, It would’ve been me if it wasn’t for the blood!

I’m far from perfect and I sin just like a fool

I know this is not what I learned back in Sunday school

I’ll fight, curse, and get drunk. To some this may come as a shock

I serve a God who forgives and “you don’t know the cost of the oil in my alabaster box.”  

Days I felt alone, times I wanted to walk away, shoot I’ve cried myself to sleep too

“In spite of the storm and rain and heartache and pain, I’m still alive. I made it through.”  

Thinking I have no storm because of my accolades

Oh honey “You don’t know the cost of my praise”

When you see me cry I am far from sad

In his hands, my life he had

“When melodies are gone in you I hear a song”

So this is why I sing all day long

“Melodies from heaven rain down on me”

Even when I’m being a fool off in these streets

“In spite of everything I’ve been through” a smile is on my face

Hallelujah today I’m saved by God’s “Amazing Grace”

So when you see my cry that’s my show of praise

And I will continue to sing in all my days

“That’s the Reason Why I Sing”